Sacral Chakra and Intimacy

Perhaps intimacy has to begin "at home" with ourselves. How "intimate" are we with all parts of ourselves. Although the Sacral Chakra does definitely relate to the intimacy of sexuality, it also embodies a much greater intimacy. That is not to downplay the beauty and power and sacredness of physical loving -- it is to say that there is that and there is more -- much more. Certainly as we continue this fascinating Journey Through the Chakras, we'll discover and experience more. But for now, let's get to know those parts of us that are desperately wanting our attention. Within most (if not all) of us, whatever our age, there are parts of us that are hidden inside feeling ignored, unsatisfied, unfulfilled. If those parts of us continue to be ignored or oppressed, we can be certain that they will find an outlet -- be it in unhealthy relationships, inability to develop intimacy, perhaps in ways that may be hurtful to ourselves or others. What if, as adults, we could develop intimate relationships with those younger (and still very much alive and active) parts of ourselves that are still craving the attention or fulfillment of needs and desires that didn't happen then.

A number of years ago, the big rage was "Inner Child" work. What about the "Inner Adolescent", the "Inner Teenager", the "Inner Young Adult". Sacral Chakra qualities include being able to develop healthy relationships, healthy expression of sexuality, emotional health and stability, feelings of passion and zest for life and the ability to create new life (since it does relate to organs of reproduction). The Sacral Chakra is also the place where attraction to others originates. And of course it relates our ability to attract others to us. That may bring up all kinds of issues about how attractive (or not) that we feel, how deserving of love and attention we feel. In other words it may bring up many of the same insecurities, desires, dreams and hopes that we may have had as adolescents, as teenagers, as young adults. Those long term insecurities and those unfulfilled dreams and desires could be wrecking havoc on our ability to develop healthy intimate relationships.

Since the Sacral Chakra is also the beginning of the awakening Creative Energy, can we find a creative way to re-connect -- intimately -- with those long denied parts of ourselves and allow them to express themselves creatively? Can we tune in to those memories of ourselves as a young teenager and offer that part of ourselves unconditional love and acceptance? Can we allow that part of ourselves to sing his or her song, to dance his/her dance, to tell his/her story, to draw or paint his/her pain and joy and frustration and desire?

We are so hung up, in our society, with what is "age appropriate" behaviour that much of our Creative Spirit has been held back, repressed, and denied expression. The "Inner Child" in us has to be free to express without judgement and without the need to be "perfect". The "Inner Teenager" has to be free to explore new feelings and sensations and desires and moods. It is back here that so much of our Creative Juiciness has been locked in. Let's allow that child in us to scribble and play freely with colours and shapes and sounds and explore with fascination all of the incredible ways that the body can move. Let's allow that teenager in us to explore sensation and love and desire and attraction. Let's just unlock those Creative Juices. Let the Sacral Chakra energy flow.

Ultimately I truly believe that it is the freeing of the Creative Spirit that is going to free humanity from pain and conflict. So I would like to propose that we rid ourselves of all judgement around what is "age appropriate".

Believe it or not, all of this was stirred up in me by a song that I want to sing on my 60th birthday, which is Jan. 11, 2011. I began singing lessons about one year ago -- never having sung before in all of my then 58 years. My inner 16 year old really wants to sing "Dream Lover" for my 60th birthday celebration. She wants, and deserves, equal time at that celebration. I've really had to grapple with, "What are people gonna think -- a 60 year old woman up there singing "I want..... A boy......to call my Own." But you know what, it is not me as a 6o year old, who will be singing that song. It is the 16 year old part of me that will be there singing her heart out. And you know what, the 60 year old will find, or create, her own special love song. One thing I am discovering about love is that as one gets older, the potential for loving becomes stronger and deeper. And that needs its own special song. But first, the teenager has to sing her song of desire. The young adult woman in me has to express her desire through her special song and dance. And, when the time is right, I will find or create the song and the dance that express the profound depths of the desire and love that continue to grow and deepen inside of me.

This Journey into Intimacy is truly a sacred and profound Journey -- especially when we offer that intimacy first to ourselves -- to all parts of ourselves.

The Journey Through the Chakras continues next Wed. Feb. 17 with the Solar Plexus. Stay tuned!!

Treat Yourself Well!

Barbara

PS I may not have mentioned that the Element of the Sacral Chakra is WATER and that Belly Dance is one beautiful way to begin to awaken that energy center.